Because we regularly interact with our fellow humans, run-ins with rude people are inevitable. While we might encounter unpleasant comments or actions in our day-to-day activities, the usual culprits are people we see on a regular basis. Whether at work, school, or home, stinging remarks from those closest to us can have especially negative effects.
Although some people are skillful at dodging rudeness, most of us find it difficult not to retaliate in return. When your mom asks, “When are you going to have a stable relationship?” or your coworker comments, “You should really try (X, Y, Z) diet plan,” your natural response may be a snarky comeback. However, stooping to the level of rude people can compound negative feelings. Taking the high road while replying honestly is possible–and brings greater satisfaction than verbally sparring.
An ancient proverb says, “A mild answer turns away rage, but a harsh word stirs up anger.” To diffuse a tense situation, try these 9 comebacks for dealing with rude people. You may find that these simple responses leave you feeling positive rather than shamed or angry. (1)
9 Comebacks For Dealing With Rude People
1. Say “Thank You”
When you thank someone, you’re maintaining your dignity while not engaging in rude behavior back. For example, a comment of “you’ve gained a lot of weight” could be met with, “thank you for letting me know.” This effectively ends the conversation politely, while showing that you won’t engage in rude behavior.
2. Let Them Know You Appreciate Their Opinion
Along the lines of expressing thankfulness, telling some you appreciate their opinion is another high-road path. If someone says, “You’re crazy if you’re willing to spend (dollar amount) on that car,” simply let them know you appreciate their opinion. At the same time, you can add that you’ve done your research and are prepared for the cost. This works on many rude statements or requests for information that the person shouldn’t be privy to.
3. End The Conversation
If the rudeness of an encounter is escalating, you can simply end the conversation. Doing this will allow you to exit the exchange before you say something you’ll regret.
4. Turn It Around With A Question
Sometimes, people don’t realize their inquiries are overly personal or rude. A great way to counter rudeness is to ask them why they felt the need to ask that question. This can help the person to realize what they said was inappropriate, giving them insight into their own impolite behavior. It also shows that you did not appreciate their commentary, and sets your boundaries for the future.
5. A (Slightly) Sarcastic Comeback
A simple retort? “That almost hurt my feelings.” While there is a tinge of sarcasm, it also shows you’re mature enough to look past the remark. At the same time, it exposes a rude comment for what it is, and may alert the person to their own bad behavior.
6. “You’re Right.”
This is a great way to disengage. Rude people tend to derive enjoyment from snarky digs at others; this statement essentially robs them of a reaction from you. For example, if the person says, “Those shorts make you look fat,” simply respond with, “You’re right.” It’s a clever, amusing way of ending the conversation.
7. Expose Their Negativity
When rude people throw shade your way, answer with something like, “You always have something negative to say, don’t you?” This immediately flips the focus from you to them. You may just open their eyes to behavior they were oblivious to while standing up for yourself at the same time.
8. When Dealing With Loved Ones
When those closest to you–a spouse, sibling, or parent–says something rude, try diffusing their words with love. Saying, “I love myself, and I love you too” can be a great response to unkind words. It can also remind the person of the loving bond that should exist between you–of which rudeness shouldn’t be apart of.
9. Just Laugh
Laughing at a rude comment shows that no negativity can destroy your inner peace. It might leave them annoyed or bewildered, but you’ll be making a statement that their words can’t hurt you. (2)
While we’ll invariably encounter rude people throughout our lives, using these 9 comebacks will help you enjoy greater inner peace and may just help others improve their own behavior.
